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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We are a happily married 2 Mom family with an adopted DD who is now 7.
DD does a martial art and I just found the facebook page of one of the instructors ( He did not friend me on fb) and there are some ignorant and hateful posts on his wall that can be seen by anyone. Most recent was a few days ago when he posted from a site that says "Sociologists say homosexual parenting harms children"

He has always been polite to me and I have not noticed any overt behavior that is different towards my child. But, I am concerned she could potentially be held back by his beliefs and it just really bothers me that he is even around my child.
Would you do or say anything?[/quote]

Op I wouldn't do anything or say anything unless he directly said something to you or your daughter that is homophobic.  I think it is a fine line and while I don't agree with his viewpoint he is allowed to express his opinion.    What if the instructor was gay and someone pulled their kids out of the class because they didn't like the gay pride stuff they posted?  You would be horrified no?

Plus, you would be only harming your child since she enjoys the activity.  [/quote]

OMFG. Someone pulling their kids out because they are prejudiced themselves against the pride-supporting instructor is not the same as pulling the kid out because the instructor is intolerant.[/quote]

It is the same.  Op never said the person did anything to her or her daughter.  People can have different opinions.  Even some gay people don't think that gays should be parents ( Dolce and Gabbana for one)  There was a big disagreement between them and Elton John.  At least this instructor didn't do anything personally to them.[/quote]

I have a ripped from real life example of why a homophobic instructor is troubling even if they have not yet said something to the child. My 8 year old was at camp this summer and said to one of her counselors "did you know something about me, I have two moms" and the counselor thankfully said something like "that's cool!"  For an extracurricular activity, I don't want to put my kid in the position of potentially having her family denigrated, if I already know in advance about the person's beliefs. With a classroom teacher, it's a little trickier and I would make an appointment and have a conversation about what they would say/not say. You could just have a conversation with the instructor, but that takes a lot of emotional energy.[/quote]

That is the exact opposite of a troubling example. [/quote]

Yes, it was an example that turned out really well-and I was really thankful for the counselor's response. I was thinking that people would infer from that example, that if OP's child said something similar to the instructor, the kid might get a very different response that could feel really hurtful or scary. As an adult, I have people I just don't talk about certain topics with because we agree to disagree. But, I wouldn't expect my kid to not talk about her life.[/quote]

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