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Pushing ANYONE to get behind the wheel of a car when they don't want to, is the height of insanity.

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I think you do not have experience with kids who are anxious.

I had to push my child to learn to swim.  It took years.  It was a necessary skill.

I had to push my child to ride a bike.  It didn't take too long once I pushed, but I had waited years for her to be interested on her own.  She wouldn't have learned without the push.

I have to push her to get learners permit and then I will have to push her to do the practice driving.  It is just the way she is.  If you simply wait for some kids to want to do something, they will be ill-prepared for life.

And as for brains not being fully developed until people are 25.   Ummm.... how's that going to work out to try to teach a 25 yr old to drive?  At that point, they are really self conscious about the fact that they don't know how to drive (realizing that most everyone else does), then they pay for a driving school (when they have a full time job???),  and they have very little experience driving when they are in a job that requires them to take the company/gov. car to go do something???  I mean c'mon, man!  (channelling Biden here).

Some kids simply have zero confidence and need to be pushed a bit to see that they CAN do something.  As I always say -- true CONFIDENCE comes from COMPETENCE.  So, as my kid sees that she can answer a good number of the permit questions right, she gains confidence that she can pass the written test.  And then when she does that, we will start slow to give her confidence in doing small driving in open spaces.  She CAN do it!  She just doesn't believe she can.  So, I have to break it down and push her to believe in herself.  So, no, this isn't "insanity."  It's called teaching.  And it's called parenting the child you have.

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Completely disagree.      Would love to hear your kid's view on this.  [/quote]

Given how she reacted the moment she learned to do other things that were hard and that she resisted (i.e. the swimming and the bike riding), I'm expecting her to literally do  a happy dance once she gets it.  Both of those accomplishments were sources of pride after years of resistance.  [/quote]

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