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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]TBH I think stories like yours are just excuses. Between visitation how often were you in contact with the kids? 
If the kids were sick could you have been agreeable to visiting the kids at their home ? In these situations it’s easy to paint yourself as the wronged party and much harder to actually do something besides complain. There are so many ways to keep a connection with kids in between visits an I bet you have t done much in that regard.  Put in some effort on that.[/quote]

OP here. I ask to talk with my kids several times per week. If I outright call without warning, she will not answer. She will have them call back most times, but sometimes not. I have always asked to make up visits, get extra time, meet closer for her, do "dinner dates" with them, pick up from school and play on the playground for 30 minutes, etc. I am always told no.

I do wonder why you assume I haven't put much effort into spending time with my kids outside of my scheduled time. I understand that may be the "norm" for some fathers, but there are fathers that really do want a relationship with their children outside of "every other weekend". Unfortunately, my ex is extremely controlling and would much prefer I not spend any time with the kids so that she can say she raised them on her own (a lot of this runs deeper than us - her mom was a single mom, her grandmother was a single mom, etc.)[/quote]

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