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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you don’t come home I need a text at 11 pm do I know and something at 10 am so I know you are alive.[/quote]

I like this suggestion. I know she'd need her privacy, but I'd worry. Otherwise I think treating each other as respectful roommates is great advice. Don't let her fall into a pattern of your doing everything for her.[/quote]

On the other hand, I think this is ridiculous.  Why would you assume she’s lying in a ditch somewhere?  What if she spent the night somewhere and isn’t up by 10? I agree not to do everything for her and to treat one another as respectful roommates, which does NOT include timed checkins.  Treat her as the adult she is.[/quote]

eh, you live with your parents, you do timed check ins.  I don't care if you are 22 or 42.  Letting them know whether they can expect you home or not and that you are o.k. is basic common courtesy.  It's also basic personal safety, especially for young women.  When I lived with roommates we always let each other know where we were going, who we were with and when to expect each other home.

Is she driving Op's car?  If so, Op can put parameters as to where/when that car is being driven.  If you are driving around someone else's vehicle while on their auto insurance then you are not free to just come and go, take road trips, etc as you please.  You plan to be out late at night at the clubs?  Then you leave that car in your parents driveway while you take Uber.  It's a matter of basic personal responsibility and showing respect for the people who are helping you out.

Op, your 22 year old daughter already has her [b]bachelors and masters? [/b] Is that correct?  If so, she sounds like a very accomplished and driven individual.  [/quote]

Going straight from BS is my guess. My son did that too. No master's. [/quote]

Do they earn their masters and PHD at the same time or can they truly just skip getting their master's altogether?[/quote]

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