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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I honestly don't understand people who say it's not being good, and we don't allow a lot of screentime.

When I was a kid, I was a total bookworm.  The kind of kid who wanted to read while I was walking, always had a book with me, etc.  So if I'm engrossed in a book, would that be considered being good?  Or is that ok because it's more acceptable?[/quote]

Yes reading is different than screen time.  It has nothing to do with what is 'acceptable' and everything to do with screen time addictions. [/quote]

I was also always reading as a kid, but I can't remember a single time I had a tantrum or whined if my parents told me it was time to put the book down.  It wasn't addictive the same way screens are and doesn't result in the same bad behavior.

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We're not talking about whether screen time is bad or not.  The question is whether the child is being good or it doesn't count because they are being good * with a screen.[/quote]

The question, again, is what is "good?" Are you trying to get pats on the back for good parenting? Are you talking about a kid who isn't causing trouble for adults? Are you asserting that the child is demonstrating some sort of useful skill? What?[/quote]

To me, as a parent, my definition of "being good", is really just not being bad.  It doesn't involve some superhuman feat, it just means you met my expectations for the situation and didn't bother, embarrass, annoy or terrify me.  If, for example, I send you off with Grandma, and tell you to "be good for Grandma", and Grandma makes that being good super easy by taking you to the ice cream parlor where you can order what you like, then I feel like you met my expectations.  If I took you to the store, and you stayed by the cart and didn't whine for things, I consider that 'being good" even if the store was someplace like the vitamin shoppe where there's nothing worth whining for.

It's not like I go around boasting about how my kid is "good", but if someone asked "was she good at the store?", I wouldn't say "Well, no, she was just so so because the task was so easy."  I'd just say "yes".  [/quote]

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