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The question, again, is what is "good?" Are you trying to get pats on the back for good parenting? Are you talking about a kid who isn't causing trouble for adults? Are you asserting that the child is demonstrating some sort of useful skill? What?[/quote]
I'm not sure I understand what you mean.  I believe that OP's MIL is praising the child for exhibiting good behavior and OP is saying it doesn't count due to child using screen time.  So I guess that we are talking about a kid who isn't causing trouble.[/quote]

Right, but the question is, also: maybe it doesn't count as "good" behavior to ignore everyone else in the room, no matter how quiet you're being.

But there's another aspect addressed in the OP. The fact that her MIL was "marveling" at his behavior. So could also be talking about good as in impressive, not just good as in not misbehaving. I definitely don't think it "counts" as impressive or skilled.

My grandmother mentioned something about this issue when my daughter was about a year old. She (my daughter, but also my grandmother lol) has always been reasonably well-behaved at restaurants. Nothing remarkable-- when she was under 4, especially, we did have to walk her around a bit, here and there, engage with her, etc. Just an average kid IMO-- not one who literally can't sit still, and not one who is extremely docile either. My grandmother compared her to the great-granddaughter of a friend, whom the friend described as "well-behaved" at restaurants as well. But the kid (also 1 year old) was put in front of an iPad the whole time. My grandmother thought it was weird to describe that as well-behaved, because she wasn't even part of the event at all, really. She wasn't available to be engaged in any way-- even to the limited extent you can engage with a 1-year-old. Not that the kid was rude or anything, but well-behaved didn't capture the behavior in my grandmother's opinion.  [/quote]

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