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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yep, we middle-aged men can't be allowed to mentor or otherwise involve ourselves with young women at work, even accompanied by our S/O or spouse.

It's because all of the other women will assume we're trying to get in her pants.  Or that she's sleeping with us.

Honestly, if women are ever going to get a break, the first one is going to have to come from other women, but I'm not holding my breath.  [/quote]

[b]How is purchasing a birthday gift, especially one that is an “experience” that must be shared with the mentor outside of work professional mentorship?

[/b]Your response is equivalent to men who pout because they’re no longer “allowed” to compliment women’s bodies in the workplace. Women never needed that crap in the first place. [/quote]

You're right, I wasn't thinking.  I won't invite women at work to play golf or tennis with the boys anymore, either.  It's not "professional" and contributes nothing to their development and advancement.  [/quote]

[b]"If I don't get to use my position of authority to force young women into awkward psuedo-dates with me then I shouldn't be expected to treat them equally at work!"   [/b]:lol: [/quote]

There we have it, more sexual jealousy.  This would not be an issue if the 20 year-old in question was a man.

None of you would think twice about it.  [/quote]

Pretty sure several comments have pointed out that this would be weird even if it was a male colleague.  Trust me, no one is jealous of the middle aged guy who thinks he's still got it and doesn't realize how he's coming across to the 20 something he's trying to ingratiate himself with, [b]and to everyone else in the office who's watching and wincing[/b].[/quote]

You're only watching because a young woman is at issue.  Again, if it was a young man (despite what the female poster posing as a man said up thread), you wouldn't be watching because you wouldn't care.

Sexual jealousy is what this is about, nothing more.  [/quote]

I'm watching because a young woman is at issue because I was that young woman and know what it's like to have an inappropriate boss trying to break down your boundaries at work with little gifts and outings and emails/texts outside of work hours.  I'm not jealous of her, I'm in her corner.  But if you need to think the office is full of jealous harpies who all secretly want you in order to keep it in your pants, then think that.  [/quote]

I he invited her WITHOUT his girlfriend I could see your point. But if he's trying to get next to her, why would he invite her and the girlfriend? It might not be the most fun for her, but I really don't see why this warrants a post on DCUM. She can decline to go if she doesn't want to be a third wheel. But they're older and more mature and presumably won't be making out in front of her.

People here are so uptight, maybe you would be more comfortable living under ISIS or the Taliban![/quote]

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