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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yes, it is unfair, but so is life so you deal with it. I agree that no one is entitled to free childcare but when parents give the gift of free childcare to one of their children and not the other, it is going to breed resentment. Essentially, the parents are giving one of their children $20-30k per year and the other one nothing. [/quote]

Agree. This is unfair and it is favoritism. You don’t have to accept it or forget II, but you do have to move on in a healthy way.  You can always have a heart to heart with MIl or SIL in how this has hurt you. They cannot I validate your Bolos feelings, or any feelings. Those are yours.  And you don’t have to contort reality to rationalize that what they did is fair; it is not.

We have family friends who gave one child a lake house to be married in, free childcare 2-3 days a week for 5+ years, a spot in the family company (which they inherited now), while they gave their other child none of the sort. Maybe they’re paying her therapy bill now.

I would start with MIl and go over “3 years ago you said you’d watch our baby, similar to what you did when So and Adi has young babies.is this still possible in our house or so we need to make other arrangements?”  
If she says Oh they’re are other cousins she needs to watch, then merely repeat what she originally told you and last told you, and say your feeling are hurt and that won’t work out.[/quote]

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