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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Can your DH do the drop offs and pickups? He may change his mind when he experiences the inconvenience and also witnesses the level of care his mom is going to be able to provide to his firstborn, with two other kids around.

As with other PPs, other cheaper options to look at are in home daycares and nanny shares near you.  My three kids have had all sorts of childcare arrangements from SAHM to a FT nanny to a relative caring for them to an in home daycare.  The in home daycare was the best for all of us.[/quote]

People, can you please be realistic? Elderly MIL is not a professional child care giver. She's grandma. Grandma is likely already pretty stretched watching SIL's kids, and adding an INFANT on top of that is not just a matter of pickups and drop-offs. FFS.[/quote]

Exactly.  I wouldn't want two babies and a toddler in a nannyshare, regardless.  Tell your DH to go to a daycare with a 1:3 ratio and see how the infants spend a lot of time crying.  Getting the 3 to coordinate nap schedules (especially if the newborn is still on a 3-nap schedule) and getting outside are going to be really complicated.

It sounds like OP is dealing with people (DH, MIL and SIL) who are not reality based.  Which can be really frustrating!  My MIL declared she would be our nanny while I was pregnant and my DH was all for it ... but they literally had not thought out a single detail.  MIL wasn't even living in our same city at the time!  All I had to do is say "Well, you realize that I will need child care every day, 5 days a week, all year from around 8:30am - 5:30 pm, because I have a full time job?"  And MIL immediately agreed that she could not do that.

I would put my foot down specifically about the 3 kids, and having to commute across town.  Just tell your DH that it isn't going to happen.  Arrange for the nanny, and tell your DH that if your MIL works out things with your SIL, then you can consider replace the nanny with her. [/quote]

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