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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. The funeral is for a grandparent. I have gone to funerals in the past. I always cave to social pressure and go. The last time I attended a funeral I was really negatively affected by it. Obviously, no funeral is pleasant. But I found I felt so much worse after attending the funeral, and it was not a feeling that left quickly after the funeral was over. The feeling lingered for several weeks and I was upset that my last memory of my loved one was a funeral.  The ritual itself does not resonate with me, and goes against how I want to part with others. I know that everyone doesn't feel like I do, and I do not want to further hurt others during a difficult time. I view my different stance on funerals similar to a difference in religious beliefs. I'm concerned that my family may not be able to provide he space for my difference. It is in no way a sign of me not respecting or loving the deceased, or those who are mourning.[/quote]

Your twisting yourself into a pretzel to justify not going. Grow up. Death is part of life and showing up is the most important thing. You’re being needlessly dramatic to try and justify not doing the right thing. [/quote]

+1 My cousin skipped my father's funeral. He also came for like 5 minutes of our grandfather's funeral. He had no previous commitments; he just didn't come because he's a very selfish person. My opinion isn't important to him, so it likely doesn't matter to him that I think he is a turd and will never forgive him. But just be aware there are people in your family who might be affected by your not attending.[/quote]

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