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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]On Wednesday evening my husband came home after drinking with a friend. I was in a pissy mood and made a comment about how I feel we are behind and all our friends are moving on, growing up, buying houses, having babies etc.

He grows cold and snaps at me saying he’s not dealing with this again.

I am taken aback by his sudden change of tone and tell him I’d like for him to listen to me.

He refuses and walks out of the room. I follow him in the living room and he tells me to go away. I feel confused and ask why. He says leave me alone. I say no you have to talk to me. He started yelling and screaming at me to leave him alone. I tell him to stop acting that way. I go over and touch him saying I love him and it’s ok and that he needs to calm down. He screams in my face, “ go away!!! Leave me alone!!! I want to bash my head against a wall!”

I start crying and go hide in the bedroom.

The next morning I leave for work. He texts me at noon as if it’s another ordinary day.

It’s Friday now and he still hasn’t apologized.

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OP this is a lousy dynamic.  Think about it- you go out with your friends, you're having fun, and then you come home to your spouse nagging you about issues that cannot immediately be resolved.

Ask yourself: why did DH have to be confronted with YOUR pissy mood?  Why is that HIS problem?  Did you engage in any pleasant conversation at all?  When DH goes out with friends I ask him how it went, what he and his friends did, we gossip about whoever he was with, and then I tell him what I did while he was gone.  And then we go to SLEEP because that is not the time for deep conversation!  And what was he supposed to say when you told him all your friends are ahead?  "Yes honey, they all have better wives than I do," would that type of response have made you happy?

There is a time to resolve problems and work out issues and it is not after a night with friends when the person at home is in a pissy mood.  Now DH just perceives you as a nag and doesn't even feel the need to apologize to you anymore.[/quote]

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