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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My Sister was married for close to twenty years.

When she divorced, she got 1/2 of what her husband earns plus 1/2 his retirement.

The alimony is forever unless she re-marries.
She lives in CA which is hugely a property state.[/quote]

The state should compel her to work the same number of hours per week as her ex husband. Even if that’s a minimum wage Walmart job, it is unconscionable to think that a State can force a man to work while a woman does no work. Regardless of how great she might have once been as a SAHM, once those child duties are complete (ie kids are in school full time) she has NOT done anything to earn a lifetime of free income with zero work hours. [/quote]

Uhhh...and most divorced SAH spouses DO go back to work.  They need health insurance and they have bills to pay like everyone else does.  They also get alimony to help them make ends meet plus half of the marital assets.  They don't just get kicked to the curb while the bread winning spouse keeps it all. That's not the way it works.  [/quote]

Uhhh... there's no way then for PP's claim that she gets 1/2 of what her husband earns could be true. I am all for rehabilitative alimony while a divorced spouse gets back on her (or his) feet to re-enter the workforce and support her (or him)self. But on no planet should a spouse EVER (for ANY reason) collect even 1 cent of alimony who does not her (or him)self work a THE SAME # OF HOURS/WEEK in a paying job (or is actively being trained/educated to do so).[/quote]

Depending on the ages of the people and assets involved, it may not make sense to put money into job training when the couple is already approaching retirement age.  You have to look at the big picture.  It's not a one size fits all.  Why should the husband be able to retire in 5 years while the wife is required to work retail until she's 80?[/quote]

maybe she should have thought of that before quitting the workforce.[/quote]

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