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[quote=Anonymous]OP - I am going to go with team DW/DH on this one. Its incredibly rude to insist on staying in someone's house when the host has already said no. It shows a huge lack of boundaries on the part of your mother. She can afford to stay in a hotel, it is nearby and you have told her it doesn't work for you to host them. A respectful family member would book the hotel not demand to stay. Its also a red flag when the person being told no starts arguing with whatever reason the person saying no said.

I'm a happy host and we host people all the time. My MIL comes about every 6 weeks and it is never a problem. Same goes for extended family and friends. I have learned though to never host people during times of stress and upheaval. New baby - no way. Just moved in - no way. In fact, when we moved into our 1st house years ago we agreed to host MIL and SIL the first month after we moved in. It was a nightmare, To them it was a project to get to place house. They wanted to go shopping for things, had constant opinions on what we should do and drove us crazy. They were excited and thought it would be fun to do this and had zero listening skills to when we said no. Once our house was set up they went back to behaving like normal guests and everything is fine.

It sounds like this is exactly what your mother has plans and your wife is smart to say no way.

Just call your mother back and tell her that hosting her does not work. If she protests, just repeat and cancel the visit if you have to cancel it. It is perfectly fine to not want to host someone to stay overnight. The problem with pushy people is that when they hear a no and are successful getting the other person to give in then they just become that much more emboldened to be even pushier the next time. [/quote]

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