Reply to 42, not married, have always wanted to be, and now thinking

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "42, not married, have always wanted to be, and now thinking - why? Is marriage really that great?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You seem to be focused on the wrong thing.  Instead of focusing on marriage you should wonder if you’d like a boyfriend.  The first step is a boyfriend.  Find someone you enjoy spending time with.  Step one is going on dates and meeting men.

FWIW I see the main benefit of marriage to be relative stability.  Marriage for better or worse keeps people together.  If I weren’t married I would have probably left my husband by now and later regretted it.  It’s a lot easier to breakup with a boyfriend/gf than get divorced.  If I only went the LT partner route I would probably have multiple ones throughout my life.  This is what I’m witnessing among my friends who are opposed to marriage.  They jump from relationship to relationship.  There are of course people who don’t require a legal contract to stay together, but I find it certainly helps.  It also provides financial protection, especially for the spouse who has children and/or sacrifices their career for children.

[/quote]

My friends who have had 3-4 LTR rather than marriage seem much happier than my friends stuck in unhappy marriages. Particularly the two women I know in unhappy marriage #2 but determined to not be a statistic.

It may seem bloodless, but [b]I think marriage should require an annual renewal to be legally in effect. [/b]Parties would have to give 2 months notice of their intent either way and contracts would have a default option for custody and financial issues, although complex or emerging situations could trigger either family therapy and mediation. If that fails, the traditional divorce process.[/quote]

The whole point of marriage being a legal contract regulated by the state is that it is a public good meant to provide stability to our society. Annual renewal would negate that. There is a reason it takes time and effort to legally disentangle the adults in any family.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics