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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote] I end up picking DD up early and cutting short her time with her dad. On one hand, I feel guilty about cutting into their time[/quote]

You don't get to do this, and I am surprised he permitted it.[/quote]

It was presented as a choice to me, e.g. “I know you’re uncomfortable with this situation so if you don’t want Larla to go to the park with [girlfriend + kid], you can pick her up/I will drop her off.” I didn’t demand, though I have expressed my displeasure to ExH for violating what we agreed to. [/quote]

TBH, OP, your EX-H is stuck between a rock and a hard place and he's not really thinking about his daughter at all on this b/c well...he can't. He's mostly thinking with his dick. Sorry but true. He knows he can't miss the GF's son's bday without her getting pretty pissed off (obviously it's her son and she wants her S/O there with her for the party)...but he also knows that life is a LOT better when YOU aren't pissed off. So he's trying to appease you both here.

You aren't totally wrong. But also it's clear he doesn't agree. And honestly he should technically be able to take your DD (she's BOTH of yours) to hang out with whomever he feels like hanging out with during her visitation time with him. You don't get to decide that unless the person has been determined to be a threat or danger to your kid. She isn't. (Or if she is you have no evidence of that beyond your desire to not have her get attached to someone who might vanish in a couple of weeks.)

OP...I feel for you, but you lost control of this when you and Ex-H divorced. He's her parent too.[/quote]

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