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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]She drove out to you while on bedrest and asked how to help you, and you asked her to clean your place? lol it's not surprising she declined.[/b] Either sit down and talk to her about how you feel and how you'd like to proceed, or accept that it's always going to be this way. Either way, you can do it without family support. I know it doesn't feel like it right now, but you can do this. [/quote]

np:  What were you and OP’s mother expecting OP to ask for?  I can’t think of anything OP would need with more than domestic chores![/quote]

Seriously.  If you think the OP was out of line, then you clearly have been lucky enough to be spared medical trauma in your life.[/quote]

I don't think she's out of line for asking, but I do find her reaction strange when she is told no. She did not mention if her mom cooked, picked up dry cleaning, checked the mail, paid bill's, kept her company, or did anything else etc. It's not hard to understand everyone has a limit/preference. Just because you don't mind cleaning and unpacking boxes, doesn't mean everyone else is. [/quote]

What reaction? Her mom is the one who seems to have been offended by the suggestion. OP asked for totally normal things that anyone in her position would need and would hope they could ask an offering family member to help with.

OP I sympathize. My parents are completely useless. Not bad people, just not at all helpful. We have 3 kids under 5 and my mom wants gold stars/constant accolades for volunteering to take the oldest to a playground one block from our house for an hour once during her visit. I always say something along the lines of "that sounds great," but that's apparently not enough because I'm not thankful enough/don't acknowledge how helpful she is. Well, actually, taking my oldest kid for 1 hour is completely fine and good for grandkid-grandma bonding, but it's not actually all that helpful/doesn't really free me up to do anything I couldn't do otherwise. Now, taking all 3 or even just the 2 non-babies? Sure, very helpful or quite helpful... but just the easiest kid for only 1 hour? [/quote]

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