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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is someone I am pretty friendly with via my kids school. Our husbands got along too. We have gone out for dinner with them maybe 12-13 times since we met about 2 years ago. She and her husband became hardcore vegan in last month. We have gone to a few restaurants (last few times) where my husband ordered a steak, as he generally does and I ordered a chicken dish. They ordered some vegan dish.

We have done it this way ever since they became vegan. Well.......3 days ago I get a call from her telling me she needs to speak to me in person. We agree to meet for coffee, I am thinking its something about one of the kids. She could have knocked me over with a feather by telling me that they are both uncomfortable when we are in a restaurant with them and ordering steak medium and whatever it is I am ordering. She said she cannot handle even looking at it and they are just too uncomfortable so while "they like us, they would like to continue to see us for occasions that do no involve eating"! She said maybe drinks, a movie, etc......

OK someone please clue me in. Is this the norm? Am I maybe totally clueless as to how being friends with vegans work? Is she being a nut job or am I just insensitive? Please help, I am still reeling....[/quote]

NP  Your title is misleading.    You say they don't want to socialize [i]at all[/i] with you but, really they just don't want eat with you.  Is that all you did together?  Granted, I think they are wrong but, at least she told you in person, not by phone, email or text.  Perhaps you can think of a gross meal to you and then watching someone eat it in front of you if that helps.  I would either socialize with them in non eating environments or perhaps tell her that you could eat vegetarian meals when they eat together ( although I think that is not quite right either).

I would also ask her how she felt if someone did the same to her. Ie if you said you couldn't eat  with them because they eat vegetarian meals.   Perhaps they could order a steak or you couldn't eat with them?

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