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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If your marriage was so great, then why did he stray? Perhaps he and OW are a better match together like Charles and Camilla.[/quote]

Not OP.  Because he’s an ahole, like all cheaters. I suspect you’re an ahole too. Now you know.[/quote]

Nope, not all cheaters are assholes.  My sister cheated on her verbally/mentally abusive ex, it saved her, showed her the true value of a healthy relationship.  Gave her the strength to get the f out of there, she is now happily married to her affair partner and he is an amazing step father to her two children.  Not all cheating is bad and not all cheaters are assholes.[/quote]

Two wrongs don't make a right. Your sister should have left before she cheated. What kind of example are both of these kids' parents??[/quote]

As a victim of abuse and of infidelity (in separate relationships), I have to agree with this.  Verbal/mental abuse is not an excuse to cheat.  While I'm glad your sister got out, the way she used another man - her affair partner --  to set up her exit path indicates that she still has some pretty serious issues about setting boundaries and making her own choices and finding her own strength.  That doesn't make her an asshole, but it also doesn't make the cheating good and her a saint.

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Eh, I'm not going to judge her.  It's not ideal; but the point is that it can be very hard to get out of a bad situation. If all it took were being determined to "set boundaries and make choices" then it wouldn't be so hard. If an affair helps you exit a bad relationship sooner rather than later, then it can be the morally good result. [/quote]

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