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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My mother has cancer and reading that article made me feel a little panicky. I’m a level headed adult but she’s about to start chemo so  it’s an emotional time for all of us. I feel like a lost and scared kid again even though I’m a middle age woman with kids of my own. [/quote]

I was upset to learn that cancer treatment for beloved elderly grandma was of a kind that would not extend life beyond few months yet make them very sick so it was very difficult to understand what the benefit was. It was misrepresented by the med staff.[/quote]

Same thing happened with my dad.  They kept telling him he could live with it chronically and how great he was doing.  This was Stage IV colon cancer at good hospital/oncology center.  I’m convinced they lie to experiment their drug treatments and get data.  He was so optimistic and they never addressed end of life until he was literally almost unconscious in the ER at a different hospital that explained to us for the first time just how far gone he was.  They robbed him and us of final goodbyes or an educated choice to deny treatment.  I honestly think he would have made it longer without treatment, at least he wouldn’t ha e suffered as much.[/quote]

I feel the same thing happened with my mother.  They put her on an experimental drug treatment for cancer and I am convinced it sped up her decline.  She had beat cancer once before but the second time around they recommended a new drug in addition to chemo.   Unfortunately, she ended up unconscious in the hospital the day after receiving one of her chemo treatments and died a few days later.  Her decline was so rapid and unexpected.  The doctor said she shouldn't have gotten chemo and I really wish we would have been made aware of that.  [/quote]

I'm very sorry.  I'm the dad poster.  My dad was a brilliant guy and very sharp.  He would not have done a treatment if he was righly told the risks and odds---but the entire year they kept telling him he would beat this and that it would be managed like a chronic disease and he would not die of cancer.  My mother who is a nurse was at every single appointment with him as well.  They also told him do not go on the Internet---that new treatments were out every day and the info and statistics for survival are outdated.  What a crock of shit.

I have been reading this happening more and more.  Pharma fuels a lot of it as well because Cancer drugs are BIG $$.[/quote]

PP here whose mom had lung cancer. She was basically terminal from diagnosis, but they didn’t come out and say that. My mother explicitly told all of her doctors she did not want to go through excruciating treatment just to buy an extra month or two. She basically only agreed to treatment (radiation and chemo) because they assured her it would alleviate her symptoms for awhile. In the end it is did neither. She did not gain any time and her symptoms did not improve and she gained horrible side effects. She was dead less than 7 months after diagnosis. Worst year of my life.[/quote]

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