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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Hi everyone. I'm in this boat too.  A high school junior DD who seems happy enough at school, has kids to have lunch with, involved in lots of activities, but doesn't seem to have close friends to do things with outside of organized activities but would like them.  What do I think would be great for her -- Yale's residential colleges.  6000 people at the college, so not too big or too small, and community fostered through the house system.  Since it is highly unlikely she is going to get into Yale, what's an alternative setting for her.  So far, she doesn't like the idea of a SLAC of 2000-2500 students -- thinks it would be small and maybe hard to find friends.    But would love to hear viewpoints on this.  Would an honors college at a state college be a good fit?[/quote]

Franklin and Marshall is much smaller but has an approach where the first-year seminars are held in the dorms (also called houses) and your seminar group is made up of people from your particular house. I thought it would be a great thing for my shy DS.

Haverford is not a safety, but also gave the impression that they invest a great deal of effort in getting new students to know their dormmates during the orientation program. Also 90% of all students, including first-years get singles (tiny!) which would give more introverted students a place to get away. The lounge/common rooms clearly are gathering places (toured on a Saturday am) and it looked like it was well used the night before (pizza boxes, gaming controls all over, etc).

I just wanted to thank you and the many other posters who offered advice.   I will look into the recommended schools. I’ve heard lots of great things about Oberlin.

Rice has residential colleges too -- but not an easy university to get into.

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Many schools now have living learning communities, which I would think help the introvert.  University of Vermont is another example.
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I would suggest looking at Oberlin. My daughter sounds like PP child and she loves it. Lots of quirky kids who are friendly and open. They have theme living and co-op living where the students cook and manage the property. My daughter isn’t in either of those but has found such interesting friends, while also being around people who enjoy their alone time. They also have good supports for disabilities.  The size is around 3000 undergrad including the music conservatory.[/quote][/quote]

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