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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]For those of you who are posting with kids still in high school, look into “Colleges That Change Lives.” The have a website, book, give talks around the country. Their schools are small and welcoming. They value strong relationships with faculty and a sense of community. My DC is at one, and has blossomed—much more confident and engaged that she was in high school. I think the small pond environment was less intimidating than high school in this area, which borders on being toxic.[/quote]

Spare me the colleges that save lives baloney. It’s just a marketing gimmick for the second tier.  [/quote]

Ah, but hopefully at a CTCL school you could avoid people like this, which in my book is a win[/quote]

[b]CTCL and other similar schools might be a great experience for many students and the small, supportive environment might help them improve their self-esteem and make tons of friends and be happy forever.[/b] Or it might not. While it is important to search out a school where a student is going to have the best potential to be happy and social, for a student with a true social phobia or other underlying mental health issue, no school is going to fix that without outside intervention. I don’t think it is fair to hold up a particular school (or group of schools) as a panacea because it takes the responsibility off the student to make changes to themselves and sets up a ridiculous expectation that the school has some supernatural capability to make people happy. Many CTCL schools have horrible retention rates which is a huge red flag.[/quote]

CTCL schools are good for students academically, especially for those who may not have been the top of their class in high school. They challenge these students and they go on to graduate school at higher than expected rates.

However, they are not schools that do anything particular to foster social skills among their students, [b]and they are also not immune from clique-ish behavior[/b]. [/quote]
THIS. I had a good experience overall at a CTCL, but yeah, the social scene was quite high school-like. [/quote]

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