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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My mother has cancer and reading that article made me feel a little panicky. I’m a level headed adult but she’s about to start chemo so  it’s an emotional time for all of us. I feel like a lost and scared kid again even though I’m a middle age woman with kids of my own. [/quote]

I was upset to learn that cancer treatment for beloved elderly grandma was of a kind that would not extend life beyond few months yet make them very sick so it was very difficult to understand what the benefit was. It was misrepresented by the med staff.[/quote]

Same thing happened with my dad.  They kept telling him he could live with it chronically and how great he was doing.  This was Stage IV colon cancer at good hospital/oncology center.  I’m convinced they lie to experiment their drug treatments and get data.  He was so optimistic and they never addressed end of life until he was literally almost unconscious in the ER at a different hospital that explained to us for the first time just how far gone he was.  They robbed him and us of final goodbyes or an educated choice to deny treatment.  I honestly think he would have made it longer without treatment, at least he wouldn’t ha e suffered as much.[/quote]

The chemo is the killer, in a lot of cases. [/quote]

I think the same thing about my dad’s lung cancer treatment. The side effects were barbaric. [/quote]

It is awful, but it is hard to make the "right" decision.  Do what you think is right, at the time, given the circumstances. I miss them every day. OP, you are not alone. [/quote]

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