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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You know how I know they know it’s NOT “no big deal since you’re going anyway”? Because they NEVER OFFER TO DRIVE MY KID. Why is that? Can anyone explain? [/quote]

Yes, because they have a lot of kids and pro can’t fit yours in their car with their 3+ kids. Or maybe the toddler or baby sibling is napping.  Or maybe dad with the smaller car is taking some kids somewhere while mom has the van (where the only infant seat is) and going to another activity with the others.  Or maybe the toddler refused nap and desperately needs to go to bed early which happens to be before older kid(s) needs to be picked up and DH isn’t available.

I have three kids and it is really hard to get them to and from places sometimes considering one is a toddler and we don’t have a nanny or family help and DH often isn’t around to help either.  BUT they are my kids and I always do it bc I hate to burden others- I have never asked for favors like this but I can see many reasons why some would and then have a hard time reciprocating.  One of my very good friends is SAHM to one elementary aged child.  While I don’t ask favors of her, I DO routinely offer to pick her child up to go swimming with us or out to ice cream or somewhere fun we are going bc we have one extra seat in a van and I know she appreciates alone time.  “Just one more” when you already have three and a second parent to help really is NBD and I’m happy to do it when we can.  With that said, I would fully expect if there is an emergency happening at my house and I need to head to the ER with child, I could drop the other two off with her at a moments notice (and have had to once).  Because this is what friends do for each other.

And on the other side, I was the kid growing up whose parents could never drive me anywhere (reasons why are another story).  If it wasn’t for generous mothers of my friends picking me up for sleepovers and play dates and dance class, I would have missed out on a lot.  I am very thankful for all those parents who put in extra effort on my behalf.

Feel free to say no if you don’t want to take someone’s kid somewhere but if you ARE able to, you may be helping a child and or parent who may be struggling in ways you don’t understand.  Don’t think of it as a tit or tat situation; being helpful when you are available without the expectation of something in return is a lovely character quality to have.  [/quote]

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