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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I understand why it can be annoying. You want to be seen as normal. But to be frankly honest, you're not quite "normal." That's what my gay brother admitted (who had the same complaint).  He's gay, he's unusual by default. He knows people are trying to be kind when the end result is that it only makes him more self-conscious. But he's happy people are trying to be nice and making an effort. So he doesn't make a big deal of it.

It's a lot better then people hating you and wanting to prosecute you for your sexuality. In other words, a major step forward. And in due time it'll mean nothing whatsoever and we're close to that point.

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That’s the thing. People who tell you about their gay friend or the lesbian wedding they attended last year are attempting to signal to you “we’re cool” or “I’m an ally—I have your back” precisely because gays are a minority of the population and they want to let you know they arent part of the still-existent but hopefully-in-much-fewer-numbers than-it-used-to-be asshole majority that oppresses you in some way. It’s meant to put you at ease and feels like an innocuous way of saying “I accept you and you dont need to fear that I may be a raging homophobe. Here is my anecdotal evidence. Carry on.@[/quote]

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