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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous] I am a fit, attractive, intelligent woman (50), and I receive many admiring looks and casual conversation from older men (particularly silver foxes in their late 50s-early 60s), but no one asks me out.[/quote]

I don't anyone on this board believes any of this. IF you're half as "fit & attractive" as you think you are, unless there's other issues going on (suck as a poor personality and/or sour attitude) you'd have no problem getting dates.

[quote=Anonymous]In general, a woman is not offended if you politely ask her out to coffee, or at least it will not offend me.  Take a chance and approach a woman you like, old school style.[/quote]

And then get hit with a #metoo sexual harassment lawsuit? No thanks. Thank modern-day feminists for that. Most men don't need the hassle and aggravation.[/quote]

I am stopped by someone every week (no joke) who asks me if I teach yoga, or what my workout routine/secret is.  Generally it is women who ask these questions here in Washington.

However, when I travel to other cities I have men whistle at me on the street, or make unsolicited compliments about my physical appearance.  I smile, thank them, and generally graciously accept these nice gestures with the good will they are (hopefully) intended. In DC a man will not do such a thing.  I suppose it is politically sensitive to compliment a woman on her appearance, and I do appreciate the respect and caution exercised by DC men.

[b]As I said in my previous post, I do pick up on the admiring looks that come my way from men.  Since some women do not engage in online dating, or frequent bars, I would encourage a man who find a woman attractive to feel free to approach her at the coffee shop, after a religious service or a lecture, at the bookstore, grocery store, or the gym, and say something like, "hey, I noticed you and I both come here often, would you like to join me for coffee or a drink on Saturday."  That kind of organic, natural, "old school", personal approach still works[/b].[/quote]

I think this depends on the person. I am divorced after what was a traumatic ending to our relationship, so I know I have some issues there, but when men approach me organically to ask me out, my immediate defense is to say no. Some guy followed me around the block one day to ask me out, that totally weirded me out so I immediately lied and said I had a BF. I'm pretty, but I'm not follow around the block pretty, so to me that raises my alarms. I don't date at work, so that killed a few possibilities. Some guy would look at me and never say anything, it took him months to come up to me to ask me out, and I did because I liked him too. But if I didn't, I doubt I'd have said yes. Point is, if I meet you at Costco and you ask me out, I'm not thinking meet-cute. I'm thinking you're weird. [/quote]

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