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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How much do you budget for expenses a month?

Does your wife have monthly allowance  or a debit card /credit cards with her name that  she can use as much as she wants ?

What is a fair amount to spend if you have one child together but only one income ?

*we are middle class -300k a year plus random bonuses

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Wait, "does the wife have an allowance"???????  What, is she a child bride?  
Listen, I stayed home when my kids were little.  It was a family decision.  We lived in another major city on 40K a year--my husband's salary.  (yes, for real)  My entire salary would have been eaten up by childcare for two kids, so it didn't make financial sense for me to work instead.  We, my spouse and I being both grown ups, decided our budget.  There was no "allowance" for me.  I spent only what we could afford.  He spent only what we could afford.  We were extremely frugal.  But even if he'd made 100K or 200K, we'd do the same damn thing.  If a couple decides together to have one stay at home spouse, a family budget is what is needed.  This talk about an allowance is thinking 100 years old.  If there is conflict re: the one spouse staying home while kids are little, that's an entirely different problem that needs to be solved differently.  [b]And if kids are in school full time, the family should have two incomes. [/b] If a wife stays home while kids are in school?  She's not a wife, she's his child.  Full stop.[/quote] Where are these schools where kids are in school full time?  A full time job is 250 days or so a year and school is about 180.  A full time job is 2080 hours a year, school is more like 1260 or less.  Then there is commute time to consider.

Where do kids go where they are in school full time? [/quote]

This. I live in Loudoun. I have to pick my children up at 2:35pm. Also we have at least 10 snow days a year, not to mention holidays, workdays, summer, etc. Please recommend a job that accommodates this schedule - I’m all ears! We do not have any plans to send our children to aftercare - the one at our school is like Lord of the Flies.[/quote]

I also live in  Loudoun, and my kids went to Loudoun country Day, I picked them up around 330. BOTH DH and I WFH. Our kids have also never gone to aftercare. Kids just play during snow days.

In my neighborhood (Creighton Farms) most all kids go to camp in the summer...both SAH and Working. I think that's an SES thing though. We hire a sitter to dive them around, because as you know, where we live we are car dependent.  We also vacation all of spring break, all of Christmas, and 2 weeks in the summer.

[b]I think working vs SAH is a completely different experience based on your SES [/b][/quote]

Well I think the bolded statement is obvious but not sure what it has to do with my post.

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