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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Re: "refusing to date women who don't meet their own standards of attractiveness."

My son is 15 and I was just thinking about whether/how to talk to him about "leagues." I know I should tell him generally that he should be looking for someone who enjoys his attention. But, should I suggest to him that physical attractiveness generally sets the boundaries of who is going to be interested and who is not?

Ideally, looks are just one factor among many. In practice (and with some exceptions), I think physical appearance is the primary filter with other qualities nudging that up or down a few notches. [/quote]

I don’t think you talk to him about “leagues”. Because a woman in his league can still reject him. I think you talk about taking risks knowing that he could be rejected. But it’s better to try and fail than never trying. Teach him how to deal with rejection. The sting, the emotions, the hit to self-esteem but that he will survive. And that sometimes you get rejected for reasons that have nothing to do with you. The other person has their own preferences and baggage too. [/quote]

And, I'd add, how to look for signs that someone might be interested, or might not be interested, and take that into account.  How to read a girl he's attracted to, just like he reads other people's reactions, to gauge whether or not attention is welcome.  Women are just people, and they are not all interested in or attracted to the same things.  Treat them like individuals, pay attention to what they say and their body language and their facial expressions, and figure out whether they might be receptive.  Or not.  And if someone isn't interested, how to accept that and move on.  [/quote]

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