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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Let it go and don't invite the children over again.  Explain to your son that the number of guests he has over at once needs to decline, and brainstorm with him how he would have handled the situation if he had broken items belonging to a host (i.e. use this as a learning experience).

You need to clean up the mess.  Leaving it there is only going to inflame you further. Personally even if they had offered, I wouldn't let 11 year olds clean an area filled with shattered glass anyway.[/quote]

This.  I am very worried about how your son is responding to all of this.  It sounds like he was trying to do the right thing but his guests were out of control and then you went out of control, too.  He is 11.  He must be very scared if you totally lost it.  You may need to spend some time rebuilding his trust in you.

Use the suggestions above and also recognize that perhaps you should have been monitoring the children a little bit better.  If they were in a room they weren't supposed to be in, and you didn't know, that is a pretty big sign that they needed to be more closely monitored.

I agree that it doesn't sound safe to have an 11 year old boy cleaning up broken shards and shattered glass.[/quote]

Again... age 11, not age 3.... "rebuild his trust in you" after you got mad when he failed to control his guests and his guests destroyed over a thousand dollars worth of stuff?  Um, no.   And you don't need to monitor what the exact location of a few 11 year olds in your house is because, again, they aren't 3.  They are 11, and should be trusted to not go into the off limits room and destroy all of the items in it.  [/quote]

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