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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm also in the polite but direct camp.  I understand why this bothers you OP.  It would stick w/ me too and it wouldn't go away until I said something.

I'd tell your mother that the frequent references to having paid for your wedding bother you.  That you so appreciated thheir support, but that it was a big deal to you and your husband that you were able to put on that level of event, at such a young age, and that their contribution, while it was a LOT of money, was only 1/3rd of the costs.  So it feels dismissive of something you're proud of.

And I'd also say that while I'm not proud of it, and I love throwing showers for others, it has always hurt my feelings that no one threw a shower for me when I got married.  I'd own that.

Just getting it out in the open can rob it of much of it's power.

I'm sorry OP.[/quote]Good advice from this pp.  Also, I was wondering, do your parents even know that they didn't pay for the whole wedding?  It's not clear from your post whether you directly told them or whether you're assuming they should have realized that.  That makes a big difference.  If it's the former, they're just jerks and you might as well accept that.  If it's the later, you need to be direct now so you can get it off your chest and move on.[/quote]

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