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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I correct my parents but they are pretty good. Not hateful just have said one or two things over the years that are ignorant. But my ILs are willfully ignorant racists. There’s usually at least one zinger when we visit. I leave the room and seethe. However if anyone were around that might be hurt by their comments I’d correct them on the spot. [/quote]
You are hurt by it. Your are hurt if you do not say something. That's what some of you do not realize-- you feel as if, 'oh well, they are old, or no one of color is around so I will not take the intellectual and EMOTIONAL energy to say something'. That means you are PARTICIPATING in their ignorance. And once again, THOSE OF US WHO ARE ON THE RECEIVING END, THOSE OF US WHO HAVE TO HANDLE THE FIRST TIME THEIR KID(S) IS CALLED A "N*****" HAVE TO DEAL WITH THIS CRAP THAT YOU DON'T WANT TO EXPEND THE ENERGY ON.
IT DOES NOT MATTER IF THEY DO NOT HAVE SOME MIRACULOUS EPIPHANY -- WHAT MATTERS IS THAT THEY KNOW AND UNDERSTAND THAT YOU WILL NOT TOLERATE THAT BEHAVIOUR.
IF YOUR 50 YR OLD DAD OR 90 YR WERE SHOPLIFTING IN FRONT OF YOU -- YOU IGNORE IT?
MISS ME WITH THE BS[/quote]

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