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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is when you eat canned beans on toast for supper, and stale cereal without milk.

When they cross the line, you pack up and leave immediately. no "just one more chance," no negotiation. Every time, this is the immediate result.

They will stop very quickly.[/quote]

This is bad advice.  This works if you are somewhere that the kid thinks as fun.  I'm not letting my kid derail grocery shopping.  I imagine he would love it if all he had to do was act up a bit and get us to terminate every boring errand immediately.[/quote]

What I do is go to the parking lot and make the kids sit buckled in their car seats for a timeout. Something like 5 minutes of silence. Any talking and the timer starts all over again. Nobody leaves the car until this is done. Then we try again. Sometimes I play the Economist the week ahead podcast - or something the kids find equally boring.

Whatever happens, I never reward bad behavior by going home to play. That’s stupid. If they think Costco is too boring to behave, they’re going to do something even more boring. Plus, when we get home they get extra chores.

I’ve had to do this exsactly twice. Yes, it sucked for me but parenting is about the long game. My kids know that if I ask them if they need practice behaving, they better listen. I only ask once and I make sure to do it in a very soft calm voice. I don’t yell. I don’t raise my voice and I absolutely never ask unless I’m willing to follow through.

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