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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why don't you drive OP? I think the fact that you don't have your own car to drive yourself, whenever you want, wherever you want is factoring in here. You are setting yourself-up to have less power in this relationship.[/quote]

Are you also a SAHM in addition to not driving? I’m sending a very imbalanced power dynamic that leads him to believe he can do whatever. [/quote]

Yes- I'm curious about this too. OP, I have been on both ends of this-- DH and I are introverts and don't enjoy a lot of scheduling during our down time. I recall after a long week of work and my son was young, spending a little too long at the coffee shop or grocery store. I felt exhausted and scheduled all the time--DH felt the same way which is probably why we have only one child. 
I don't know your DH's motivations- he might be selfish and immature or he may need more downtime- and he takes it one way or another. Can you talk with him--let him know how you feel, but also let him know you appreciate the things he does do, and what would make a good compromise? If he's truly selfish, he'll get defensive, blame you for being too demanding or fail to stick with any mutually agreed upon compromise. 
FWIW, this is a very common issue in a marriage with young children. Plenty of spouses have taken up distance running, cycling, golf, workaholic behaviors, etc. The toddler and early preschool years are the most labor intensive imo. Kids are mobile, no judgement, heavily scheduled, and often, high drama. [/quote]

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