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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Your DH is definitely missing the point of rec sports. If this was something where the kid was on the path to the pros or even a D1 scholarship, then I could maybe see it. But if Little Johnny is in the rec soccer league, it's just a chance to get some exercise, have some fun, learn some teamwork and all that other good stuff. Compared to those things, becoming the most technically proficient dribbler really isn't going to pay off in adulthood.

I think what's going on is that your DH comes from a worldview where a boy's proficiency at sports determines the kid's value as a human being. Maybe his rational brain doesn't think that, but deep down at a lizard brain level, I think that's the worldview that gets pounded into a lot of us. Certainly that's how I grew up. From ages 13 - 18 when good grades weren't much remarked on by anyone, the pretty girls all liked the athletes, the stronger boys were at the top of the pecking order, sports and not academics was the topic of conversation at the dinner table -- all of that leaves a mark.

So, he probably is tormenting your son because he cares. He just has an f'd up worldview about the role of sports.[/quote]

His behavior isn’t acceptable even if the kid was headed towards a D1 scholarship. [/quote]

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