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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Is this all happening at work?

If he's pursuing friendships with other women outside of work that's 100% inappropriate. If that's the case I would put a stop to that. Most couples make friends with other couples. Not seeking out the opposite sex, especially single ones. If he's doing that he falls under the "creepy married" guy.[/quote]

No, they did not meet at work.

What a mixed bag of answers here. I honestly don’t know what to think. She’s really outwardly at least kind and interesting, she’s never married but has lived in several different countries. I *think* she’s from Bulgaria or it might be a neighboring country that she grew up in, lived elsewhere in Europe but definitely Eastern European. I know her by name. She is a neighbor and met my husband at a bar, and we have a lot of mutual friends (ranging from her age to our age). All I can say is DH and her have taken some kind of unusual liking to each other, especially her. A few things bothered me when talking to her, like her asking probing questions like “how did you meet?” and apparently knowing details about him that I didn’t realize he was sharing. And he’s helped her with her car and furniture a while back and has given her a ride home when her car was in service, etc. DH has generally been that kind of guy with friends, male, female, married friends ...but something still seems inappropriate. 
Am I just intimidated because she’s 30, slender, and has a “sexy” foreign accent?

Also, our mutual friends have never said they suspected anything, not that I’ve asked. They like her. 
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What you describe sound like my ex dh’s affair down to the rides and help. [b]Check his cell phone records and get a gps for his car. [/b]Do not confront; he will deny and hide better. [/quote]

Absolutely not. If you do that and he catches you and he isn't having an affair with the younger, foreign woman...he most certainly will now. Or he'll look more favorably on her than you.

OK, so you know the woman, and you're on good terms with her, right? Maybe try and play matchmaker for her? You even have mutual friends, so that should make this easier and provide context to do so. Suggest some age-appropriate singles that you may know. If you don't know any, be vague and make one up. "The guy who used to staff for our congressman... he's been traveling in Europe and now he's back, I'm sure he'd like to meet you!" Something like that. Innocuous and vague enough but that she gets the picture. [/quote]

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