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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]"Im not sure who lives there, wish I could help"!

You could have handled YOUR response better. Why is it so hard for people to be nice? [/quote]

Because it's not their job apparently. It seems being a part of the human race and communicating nicely is not part of anyone's job.@@

And I wouldn't be surprised if the interaction went a little bit differently. Based on the way o p is projecting about other parents, she most likely spoke rudely and dismissively as if the other woman was asking a dumb question, and the other mother got defensive by basically saying it's not crazy that she would expect someone to know her neighbors.[/quote]

But honestly... why does interaction require being “nice”?

Asking this as someone who is nice, and polite.. and would also say “sorry”. But the key is.. facts aren’t something someone should have to apologize or be sorry about. OP gave the information she had. She doesn’t need to feel apologietic or regretful that she didn’t have the requisite information. She was in her own home, on her way to work. You’d be super excited for someone to ask you for directions in your driveway, and then chastise you for knowing them (Although they should have known them).

So let’s talk hypocrisy. How many of the people preaching about kindness would stop  help a urine soaked homeless person coming to them for money or directions while they were in a rush, on their way to work? Or with their child at a library.

Kindness is universal, FWIW. If you’re going to instruct others About it, you’d better be ready to use it. And “sorry”, this mother wasn’t. She just wanted her problem solved. [/quote]

It doesn't "require" being nice, but life is certainly more pleasant when we are nice to each other.  Being nice isn't the same as being kind, but it is a kind of social lubricant, that makes interactions go more smoothly.  Sure, you can live your life doing only what you are obligated or required to do, but I just think it's, well, nice to be nice when you can, especially when it doesn't cost you much to be nice.  [/quote]

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