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[quote=Anonymous]I’ll be happy with whatever #2 is, but my preference is two of the same (while DH wants one of each).  I don’t even think it’s about clothing or activities or entertainment for the next 18 years.

I think lifelong – KNOWING there are NO guarantees – there is a greater chance that 2 brothers or 2 sisters remain close than a brother/sister.
I just think that 2 brothers or 2 sisters IF THEY WANT TO, can retain a closeness regardless of how their own nuclear families turn out.  2 brothers can hit up a bar and get drinks regularly if they make their lives nearby to each other or if they don’t they can go away on a yearly fishing trip, regardless of whether they are married/single or whether either wife has any interest in a relationship with our side of the family; and they can do this without making waves bc likely the wife doesn’t want to go fishing so if he wants to go with his brother, great.  Same thing with 2 sisters – they can hit up a mall or a girls trip, whether or not the brothers in law like each other or have one thing in common or not.  With a brother-sister, it gets more complicated. In order to be “friends” on a deeper level, there’s going to be some expectation that their families get along and have some interest in hanging out and that’s a roll of the dice; a brother and sister can’t or won’t just have a yearly standing trip together without raising some eyebrows including with their own spouses.

If all turns out right, of course siblings will be there for each other when shit hits the fan –brothers and sisters. But sometimes it’s not about shit hitting the fan, it’s just about life being meh – those stretches that are lonely or stressful and you need to be around someone who has known you forever; in those instances a guy goes to a brother more easily than a sister; and a woman goes to a sister more easily than a brother.
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