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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]All points well taken, except this/

[quote]It isn't about "who cares" it is about tell tale signs that should be a red flag that a conversation needs to happen with the coach. Yes, not all coaches do not communicate with parents or parents particularly well but they do speak through playing time, and positional roles.

As far a C teams, yes, they are transient. C teams exist to keep kids playing the game at a competitive level. Some kids improve and advance and others do not. Some kids/paretns care if their kids improve and advance and others do not. Every year during the spring season players and coaches alike should be assessing where they are. Coaches are assessing if players are a good fit or not. [b]Parents should also be assessing their players role on the team and the overall improvement of the player and team. [/b][/quote]

I agree that some parents are fine with their kids not advancing.  I'm  pretty much fine if my kids are happy. All I am saying is that my kids have played at different clubs and it very hard to find the right fit for some kids, especially if they are bubble top team players and especially if they are late year birthdays. You might think it is easy to find a good fit, but it isn't.  Our experience has shown that coaches want our child and tell us he has talent, but when push comes to shove, they want to win now, so he tends to have a less than ideal experience. If minimal playing time is based mostly on size, there isn't much a kid can do to control that.

We have one not so talented player, and it is easy to find the right place for him.

As to your bolded statement, I disagree.  I'm not a soccer expert and I don't have any idea where the kid is developmentally or how much potential my child has. That's what coaches are for. I'd like club to do evaluations without making us seem like annoying parents for demanding them. Frankly, I want there to be more ongoing conversation between the coach and my kid with me staying out of it.

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Then I don't really know what to tell you. If the kid is High School age then absolutely the player should be their own advocate but any younger than that then you may need to do the some of the heavy lifting for them.

Some clubs do annual evals but many don't. If they don't then ask for one.

[quote] I'm not a soccer expert and I don't have any idea where the kid is developmentally or how much potential my child has.[/quote]

This is exactly why YOU need to talk with coaches yourself. How else are you going to learn what matters soccer wise, what matters to the coach soccer wise, what the coach sees in your player what the coach looks for in other players and the coaches development philosophy as it applies to the team and your player if you don't try and have that conversation? Asking questions is not in and of itself adversarial and there is no reason to view a coach in an adversarial way. It sounds like you have been frustrated and changed clubs a couple of times and based on the quoted statement above you might be overreacting to things that you might not have a full understanding or proper perspective of developmental stages and timelines for players.

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