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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I totally understand what you mean by "locked in" to parenthood and I'm right there with you. I think others are seeing it as like you're seeking some sort of blissful magical state that doesn't exist, but I'm betting that most people who are saying "what do you mean, locked in??" went ahead and had second kids because it seemed like a fairly natural thing to do. But you're talking about a lack of bliss that is a different order of magnitude and affects your interest in more children. I always assumed that I'd find parenthood ... different... than I do. I really thought i'd be into it. My mom talks about how when I was born, everything changed for her, how she couldn't bear to go back to work (so she stayed home), etc. etc. She is likely looking back through rose-colored lenses but also, this has been the story she's told for my whole life and I do believe her. I have never felt any of that. I love my DD, I would do anything for her, but my husband and I regularly acknowledge that maybe parenting is just not our thing. We really struggle with it, and both of us feel great dread at the thought of having a second kid. Part of that dread is probably rooted in the fact that DD was a colicky baby, still doesn't' sleep well, and has a very spirited temperament. But I think a large part is just my DH and I learning that we are not that into parenthood, and we didn't know that before we had DD. We want DD to have a sibling in theory (she's now 3.5) and had planned to try this year, but now that the time has come, we're both like... ehhhhhh we don't know if we can do this. I look back at photos of her as a baby and do feel nostalgic, but then I remember that her babyhood was spent pacing around with a crying, rigid infant. There were very few "baby snuggles" that others like to "soak up" or whatever it is that one does with baby snuggles.[/quote]

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