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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My parents were in town recently & took my two roommates & I out for dinner (we're in grad school). Though I come from a well off background, I try not to bring up things as I don't want to seem like I was showing off. I was left deeply uncomfortable by my parents, especially my mother's behavior. Examples are: bringing up international family vacations nonchalantly, complaining about a nice restaurants being awful, calling a group of people "riff-raff", our neighborhood a "student ghetto", & a $45 dollar of wine "a steal". [b]I care deeply about my parents & my friends but if my mom acts like this I don't want her to interact with my friends. Is there a way to approach the topic with my mom?[/b] I did call her out on the "riff-raff" comment at the restaurant.[/quote]

No, you can't.  This is ingrained and her personality.  You aren't going to change your mom.  [b]And the best way to deal with this is when your parents come to visit, warn your friends about their attitudes and let them know that it is okay if they want to decline invitations to join you with your parents while they visit.  Many people won't care and will just go with the flow. [/b] Those who do care can make an excuse to decline the invitation.  It won't matter to your parents.  They are there to visit with you.  Only friends who can tolerate listening to your parents' point of view will attend and all will be fine.[/quote]

Yep. I have an aunt and uncle who are politically ultraconservative and can be obnoxious about it. The rest of my family and social circle are the polar opposite. The two sides do occasionally mix. I just try to give people a heads up about them so they aren't caught terribly off guard. It has always worked out ok since my aunt/uncle usually manage to restrain themselves and if not everyone else pretty much knows the situation by now. [/quote]

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