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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m a woman, and while I disagree with the undertones of 7:32’s post, I also don’t like the concept of “date night” for married couples as it seems to exacerbate a lot of issues, and I agree that you should unlink sex from going out as a couple.

You should be doing both regularly, to maintain different parts of your relationship, but unless there is a communicated underlying reason, you should be having sex more than once a week (or however often you go out).

Have you had a clothed, non-confrontational conversation about what that underlying issue is? Have you jointly taken any steps to mitigate it? No results? Time for another clothed, non-confrontational conversation...

To a point. If you get to the point where the excuses keep coming, or the problem is addressed but the sex still isn’t coming (within reason), you need to decide what you want to do with the rest of your life.

I’m sorry you are dealing with this...[/quote]

OP here, the reason I mention date night with the potential of sex is because, for example, if I initiate mid week after kids in bed she claims it's tough to transition from Mom to wife and needs time to feel connected. So date night in theory should give us time to reconnect, to be playful, have a drink, separate kids out, etc.  But that doesn't work either.   [/quote]

I hate to say this, but some women really appreciate chore play. She might be exhausted because once the kids go to bed she does the dishes and straightens up the house before she is able to go to bed. And it would make many women resentful of their husbands if he doesn’t help take some of this off her plate. [/quote]

Women who actually want to have sex with their husbands have been known to leave the dirty dishes in the sink.[/quote]

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