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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP that’s crap.  Mid 40s wife here married 15 years and still have great sex on date nights and non date nights as well.  Avg about 4x/week.  We have four kids.
What was your sex life like when you first got together?[/quote]

Sex life was great when we first got together.  And when married.  Died off when kids came and never really came back.  Yes, we have toys, she will use one and can finish.  But she is never, ever in the mood, no desire to talk about it.  If we have the clothed conversation she will either cry or get huffy and turn it into "ok fine lets just do it now then."

I get her libido is way lower, I don't get why it wouldn't occur to her to do something nice for me once in a while even if she wasn't in the mood.  [/quote]

Your wife married you under false pretenses.

She used sex as a lure to get you to marry you and procreate, not because she actually enjoyed it with you.

Mission accomplished, procreation completed, ergo--no need for sex with you.

She is giving the minimum barest of sex at this point, that she believes will keep you from divorcing her or cheating on her.  That's all.

Since you're not a very demanding kind of guy, minimum is very  very little.

Tell her that if she doesn't want to have sex with you on a more regular basis then you will regard yourself as having an open marriage and will look for someone outside the marriage to have your sexual needs fulfilled.

If she doesn't like that, she either steps up or shuts up, or, she or you file for divorce.  If that's what's going to happen, so be it, because your wife is exactly the type of woman who blames all the marital problems on the husband, uses that as an excuse to have an affair, and then all of a sudden she finds herself very sexual with the new guy.

By the way, why are you assuming she's not already cheating on you?[/quote]

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