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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Your children aren’t you.  Post pics about your kids but stop insinuating yourself and how/who you were as a child into the conversation.  If you want to talk about yourself - post a photo of yourself!  But don’t steal your own child’s thunder by making it about you.

This is not complicated.  Why people are arguing with OP is beyond me. Let your child have their own lives!  And stop thinking you are a martyr for simply shutting up about yourself!! [/quote]

There is a wide gulf between parents who don't let their kids be themselves and project their own interest and ambitions on them and a parent who posts a picture of their kid on their own social media and comments on similarities to themselves.  I think it is reading a lot to into it to assume the former from the latter universally.[/quote]

Is there really such a wide gulf?  Why bring yourself into your child’s picture at all with any “like mother, like daughter” comment?  Let your child have his/her moment!!! No one cares that you loved horses, too.  If you want to post about yourself - do it.  Post pictures of you riding horses (or whatever).  Your child is not you. [/quote]

This is so bizarre to me.  A parent's social media is pretty much about them. It's not like the kid is the audience.  It's presumably other adults who know the parent.  And relating to your kid in a post to your friends and family doesn't strike me as stealing a kids thunder or whatever.

If you were projecting it at a slideshow at the kid's birthday or something, or if as I said it was symptomatic of other ways in which the  child is treated as an extension of the parent, sure, but I really don't see how anything said by a parent on their social media or to the parent's peers really impacts a child the way it is being spun here.

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I am stunned that you cannot understand the issue discussed.  Stunned.  [/quote]

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