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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I love my mother in law, and my children adore her.  The problem - we don't live close by, and she will not travel alone to come visit us.  Our children are her only grandchildren, and I am resisting the premise that either we have to take the kids to see her or that she can only come visit when my father in law can accompany her.  The family - my husband included - completely coddles her, and explains this problem as "her nerves", which prevent her from getting on a plane alone (hell, even driving on a major highway alone!)  But I really think she's missing out on a golden time with her grandchildren, and I think my husband and his father should push her a bit more to broaden her horizons.  She's only 60 and has loads of free time, so I feel like we shouldn't give up on her yet!

Here are the things I've suggested so far (they haven't worked):
- my mom offered to fly to her, pick her up, and fly to our house (this is a multi-state, multi-country endeavor).  My mother in law politely declined, despite the fact that she knows my mom, and they get along very well.
- in a time of crisis, when we really needed help with the kids, I asked my husband to ask for her help.  We offered to pay for her flight and all expenses.  My mother in law said she'd see if my father in law could arrange a trip for the two of them to help, but he has work obligations and couldn't make it work.

I know this is my husband's problem to sort out, and he doesn't "want to make her feel badly", but it's driving me nuts.  He's taking our two older kids all the way to visit her in a week or so, and I'm annoyed that we're giving in to this situation.  Am I wrong to be annoyed?  [/quote]

I wouldn’t let someone this weak and neurotic watch my kids. How would she handle an emergency?[/quote]

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