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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]but times are different.[/quote]
No, times aren't different.

In all of Bloomington, MN in all of 2017 there were 43 reported rapes. In 1997 there were 44. Perception is not reality.

[quote=Anonymous]I’ve read a lot about sex trafficking stories lately.[/quote]
Lord. Step away from the computer. Do you really, really believe that pre-teen children are regularly being snatched out of malls for sex trafficking? It's vulnerable women and children who are trafficked most often, like runaways and those who live in abusive homes. The odds of someone walking off with your child in a public place are so infinitesimally small. And I assume that you've been having the stranger danger talks throughout her life?

I get that we adults can worry about the worst-case scenario and that it can be hard to forgive ourselves if anything happened. But this type of anxiety is also damaging to children, as is a lack of appropriate independence.

What is going to happen in a mall? Every place is within public view and likely under camera surveillance. Going to the bathroom is probably the biggest issue, and that's really not a huge deal. As long as your kiddo doesn't leave the property and has a phone to use, I don't see an issue. Perhaps rehearse strategies to use in any public place if someone is making her uncomfortable by following, insisting on having a conversation, asking intrusive questions, etc. [/quote]

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