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[quote=Anonymous][quote]I pushed for marriage b/c I wanted kids. Neither of us thought we would have problems conceiving. We had a very tense conversation, leading to many more, about whether to go to a clinic, or lead a child-free life. Once on the clinic path, and w/ other factors, we did a Plan A, B, C, D - IVF etc., donor egg, adoption, foster -- we became totally commited to building a family. We gave ourselves a time line and somewhat of a monetary limit. It was a rough few months to make that decision - for both of us it was like deciding to get married - and didn't look back. I love the advice on this board: mine is to really decide what you want and then pursue. Together.  [/quote]
This was us. Almost exactly. I have friends who never pursued fertility treatments/adoption/etc. and are happy child-free, one couple who got PG in their 40's (know that this is rare), but with hind-sight I can say: we would have been miserable if we hadn't given it our all. In particular, I ended up having a lot of bitter feelings toward my mom, who gave all of my baby stuff to my brother and SIL, and, after I had my DD, gave all of her family's jewelry to my niece. Without the security of knowing this was her issue and not my lack of kids, we would have had a very troubled relationship. Being a parent was the right decision for my husband and me, and while I often regret not starting earlier, I'm glad we went through it.[/quote]

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