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[quote=Anonymous]Putting aside pregnancy/toll on your body, it is doable.

My oldest was 24 months when I had twins, so ours were even more closely spaced.

The cons are, of course, no sleep for an extended period when they are very young (which could be longer if you have singles), high cost of child care, logistical challenges when you go out or go way. You need a vehicle that accommodates three care seats, and need the patience to deal with significant needs of younger kids all day long.

However, the pluses include having kids closer in age who are more likely to share similar interests, less time with all the baby stuff around. Having kids more closely spaced makes it easier to get involved and stay involved at school (fewer major changes in between kids). You can do hand me downs with clothes, because they are less likely to be out of style. As a PP said, when they are younger, you can also sometimes send all of them to the same activities or camps, which makes things easier. I've spent years watching families with bigger age gaps between kids try to watch one kids' game while a toddler runs on the field or screams, etc. and that seems like hell to me.  There are disadvantages of spacing kids out more.

For me, as hard as it was having three under three, those days when we were a unit were easier than now, with three older kids all running in different directions. Don't even get me started on dealing with orthodontia at the same time. :)

One thing I wish I had done better is giving more individual attention to my twins when they were younger, especially reading to them.  During those early years, I was working and was in survival mode. I didn't spend as much time playing fun but education games and reading as I did with my oldest and I think it shows in terms of where they are academically. I gave it my all, but it was very taxing. So be prepared for that.

I have also found that those with parents and inlaws who are local and available to help have generally been less overwhelmed than those of us without them who do it all ourselves.

If you really want it, you can absolutely do it. I wouldn't trade my three for anything.

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