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[quote=Anonymous]Our oldest was 3.5 when the third was born.  I was 30 when I married and wanted to have all my kids by the time I was 35 since we're Catholic and wouldn't abort for something like Downs' etc.  Just seemed best to pop them out quickly and we luckily had no problem on that front.

Just sent our youngest to college and it all went by in a whirlwind.  I worked for most of it and my husband deployed a lot which added a certain chaos to the equation.  We also moved several times.

The upside:  youngest two are girls, and they're barely two years apart and it was awesome to have them in the same girl scout troop, send them to the same camps, same synchro swim team, etc.  
All three did a lot of actiivities together -- orchestra, swim team, etc.   Especially when they were little, it was easy to just treat them as a unit and send them all to the same camp, classes, etc.  Got a bit harder when they got older and became their own people.

THis happened by late middle school.

Personally, I like the rhythm of doing something intensively for a certain number of years and just digging in:  Everybody learns to read in 3 years;  everybody learns multiplication (and goes to Kumon) at the same time; everybody learns to drive;  everybody takes Stanley Kaplan for SAT prep;  
We dragged everybody along when we looked at colleges and the younger two were old enough to get something out of it, which made it easier subsequently when we looked for them.  By the time we got to three, she knew she didn't want urban, big state school., etc.

Teen years took a toll on us -- we felt outnumbered, and it was hard having to be the warden for everyone for that number of years;
Now that they're in their 20's there's this weird thing going on where I"m starting to wonder if they're going to marry each other's friends.  There were some weird dynamics with sleepovers starting in middle school since they were all so close in age -- my son was clearly interested in my daughter's friends and they were interested in him.  THat was challenging![/quote]

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