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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's only hard in this country where parents coddle their kids and any form of discipline becomes liable in the eyes of CPS. It's one of the reasons why DH and I are moving back to my home country where people don't have these hang-ups.[/quote]
Teenagers do stupid things and parents are responsible for the damage they cause. Beating doesn't keep them from doing stupid things. I come from a country were beating was ok and I was a fairly well-behaved teenager. I still did stupid things, but there parents were not held responsible for things kids did.[/quote]

Oh my goodness, I mentioned discipline and the first thing you people thought of is beating??????? Whatever happened to verbal reprimands? Or shaming? That's what wrong with the current generation of kids- they are just impervious to anything because they know their parents worship them to their detriment. What I was also getting at is the culture of parenting. Where I'm from, children are expected to be respectful and to conduct themselves well. They know this and it's really a collectivist mindset. Unlike here where teenagers will do whatever they want like become teen parents or drug addicts.[/quote]

I've got two really good teenagers and I have never resorted to verbally berating them or shaming them.  I swatted them on their diapered butt a time or two when they were toddlers and I needed to get their attention because they were trying to do something very dangerous (running towards the street, going for a hot pan on the stove) but beyond that I have never punished them physically.

Dh and I generally talk to them about choices and consequences.  And we have done that since they were little.  Kinder, gentler approaches can be very effective.[/quote]

Well your kids haven't grown into adulthood but I can tell you how clever teens can be at pulling the wool over their parents' eyes. You sound like the coddling "Not my child!" white UMC parent type.[/quote]

One of my kids is in college actually.  I have literally had other adults stop me to tell me what great kids I have.  They really are good kids and not at an Eddie Haskel bone in their bodies.  That isn't to say that they never make mistakes or get teenagery because they do.  They're good kids not saints :).[/quote]

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