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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't think that I would feel comfortable hanging out with a married guy whose wife hated me.  That just sounds like a really bad idea and when their marriage blows up, as it almost certainly will, I would not want either one of them to point the finger of blame in my direction.

Send cards and talk to them openly on Facebook.[/quote]

I think it’s up to him to decide whether to maintain friendships that his wife disapproves of.  If he’s keeping up a problematic friendship, that’s a problem between him and his wife, not the wife and the friend.[/quote]

Yeah, well it would be my choice not to be hanging out with a guy whose wife *hated* me. I have about zero interest in that kind of BS drama and I would be p*ssed at a friend for putting me in a situation like that.  I do not want to be collateral damage when that ticking time bomb goes off.  No thanks![/quote]

How would the friend be putting you in that situation?  He can’t control his wife’s emotions, he can only control his own behavior.  If his wife has turned super controlling and possessive, he might really need his friends.[/quote]

Go find another dude. You are way out of touch here. You are adding fuel to the fire and you are the one who will get burned. [/quote]

No, I’m not, but enjoy that fantasy.[/quote]

If you are triggering his wife's rage then you are absolutely adding fuel to the fire.  You think that you are a good friend but, in reality, you aren't doing him any favors.  You are stoking the flames while munching on popcorn.[/quote]

Do you hear what you’re saying? You’re reading straight from the abuser’s playbook. “I wouldn’t have to hit you if you didn’t make me.”

Please get help.[/quote]

No.  I would NOT be normalizing this woman's behavior by acting like it's NBD.  Because it IS a big deal and it is hurting my friend.[/quote]

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