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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It is obvious you are a great mom. Your boys are honest and working out their "issues" right in front of you and with you. Honestly, they seem to free to tell you anything, that is a sign you have nothing to worry about at all. [b]Bio kids are just as hurtful at certain ages to their parents, and like to push the buttons. [/b]I get it you feeling are hurt, but you kept your calm, you reacted perfectly controlled. I admire you.[/quote]

+1. Also, your boys will appreciate you even more in adulthood if you continue down this path of open dialogue and unconditional love.[/quote]
[b]I disagree. Why can you can maintain an open dialogue without becomig a push over? I would have said that, I AM YOUR REAL MOM because I raised you and know and love you best. [/quote][/b]

All you are doing here is making your kids feel guilty about having thoughts that pretty much all adoptive kids have.  This is why adoptive kids don't share their true feelings with their adoptive parents.  They are afraid of hurting them, so they just try to disregard the emotional pain that they are dealing with. [/quote]

Who are in in this situation?  If you are a birthparent, you need therapy to deal with your own issues. Not all kids who joined a family through adoption are scared to share their feelings. Likewise, not all choose to seek out their birth family and are happy with their families and who they are.  Everyone is different.[/quote]

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